Punishment for not listening

We women know how difficult it sometimes is to listen, and not to do as we see fit, but as our husbands do. Don't we all think at times we are the better judges of the situation, when we should know from the Scriptures as well as from experience that we aren't ?

I made this mistake again recently... My husband asked me to do a little chore, and I, thinking it was not exactly a priority, did not get around to it that particular day. The next day, I had already forgotten about it, and so it never got done. Days later he had to remind me again, and I had to admit that indeed, I completely forgot about it, that I did not think it important enough to even make a note about it, quite obviously, so that I would do it the next day and not forget.

As this is not a matter to be taken lightly, as we are to be obedient in the small things just as much as in the great things, so this incident was followed by discipline. As usual, the actual act of disciplining was postponed for a day to give me the chance to ponder and write about my mistake.

We are to listen to our husbands because God says so. Women walk the wrong ways if they follow their own decisions, and lead others astray if they try to lead others, the family or otherwise, and the bible is very plain about all this. Eve was the one who was deceived, not Adam. Of course Adam had his part in the fall too, but Eve's part is what we are concerned with here. She disobeyed, followed her own ideas, and it got her and Adam thrown out of the garden, and all earth needed redemption after her trespass.

So when I had pondered all this and wrote a confession, my husband told me to gt ready for the disciplining. I did and presented myself before him with bare hindquarters so that he could administer three slaps, and as usual he asked in between the slaps what my mistake had been this time, if I understood what was wrong about it, and if I was going to be completely obedient and listen to everything he said, wish or command, and leave it up to him to decide which chores have priority and which can wait.

It is sad to say, but obviously, we women need to be reminded of these things more often than we should think we do... I hope my little post will help you, esteemed female reader, to avoid similar mistakes and thus punishment.

This Is How We Do It

In our family, disciplining me, the wife, is done by spanking.

My husband spanks me if I stray from the way of God in some fashion.

If I go astray, my husband has to ensure that this disobedience does not put the whole house in danger. So he will inform me that because of my sin against God, I will be disciplined.

As a next step, I have to reflect on my sin, studying Scripture to make sure I understand what I have done wrong, and then I have to write a confession. This confession is printed, signed, and read to my husband. The confession has to be public too, that is, published on the family blog or website, for example.

Between the sin and the chastening, a day at least passes, so that I have time for the reflection and to write the confession without neglecting my usual chores and duties. It also ensures that I am not spanked in anger.

When my husband finally spanks me, he does it with three slaps on my bare behind with his hand, while I am standing bent over, and am completely undressed.

Between the slaps, I have to answer his questions concerning what I have done, and what was wrong about it, and whether I will do it again. I have to answer his questions according to my sin, my confession and my repentance.

If I do not learn from the first chastening and sin again in the same field, the slaps will be doubled for me.

The Benefit of Domestic Discipline for Me as a Wife

It has become a little uncommon these days for a wife to submit to her husband in every respect. In fact, most men these days seem to have trouble controlling their wives. What a shame.

These women do not know what they are missing out on. They do not know the benefit of having a husband who takes his responsibility seriously.

Christian Domestic Discipline has many advantages for a wife indeed. It helps in many ways.

For one, if you agree to Christian Domestic Discipline (have you seen the CDD Contract my husband posted ?), you know exactly what to expect when things go wrong. You know what your place is in the marriage - that of a help meet, not that of a leader - and you accept the guidance of your husband in becoming a completely godly woman, as much as humanly possible. If you fail to live up to the standard, you are punished. It's that simple.

Another aspect is that of firm leadership. A husband who does not fear responsibility and rules his house with a firm hand ensures that there are no doubts about where the house should go and what is expected of every member. The house rules help to keep things well known to everybody, so that the house runs as smoothly as a well-oiled sewing machine.

When it comes to being spanked itself, yes, of course, it hurts, and it is not a nice experience, but very unpleasant. It should hurt, too, it's not a game after all. But when it is over, it is over, and you can start over and do better in whichever area it was that you failed. In other households, something that bothers the husband might be a smoldering issue for days, weeks or even years, and it leads to frustration for everybody. After spanking, however, the air is clear again, just as we read in the bible:

"Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby." (Heb 12:11)

The peacable fruit of righteousness: You can make good again what you screwed up, so to speak, since you know exactly what went wrong and now you can pay extra attention to it in order to avoid making the same mistake again. In the long run, it leads to you being a better help meet and better mother in every respect.

I think this only has advantages. I am glad too that I am not a man and not the one who has to do it, but that I am the one who benefits from it. We know what women are like since the beginning, since Eve in the garden we know what the main problem of women is. I am glad that my husband holds me accountable for what I do and not do, so that with his help I can fight the sinful nature we are cursed with since the Fall.

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