Showing posts with label chastening. Show all posts
Showing posts with label chastening. Show all posts
This Is How We Do It
In our family, disciplining me, the wife, is done by spanking.
My husband spanks me if I stray from the way of God in some fashion.
If I go astray, my husband has to ensure that this disobedience does not put the whole house in danger. So he will inform me that because of my sin against God, I will be disciplined.
As a next step, I have to reflect on my sin, studying Scripture to make sure I understand what I have done wrong, and then I have to write a confession. This confession is printed, signed, and read to my husband. The confession has to be public too, that is, published on the family blog or website, for example.
Between the sin and the chastening, a day at least passes, so that I have time for the reflection and to write the confession without neglecting my usual chores and duties. It also ensures that I am not spanked in anger.
When my husband finally spanks me, he does it with three slaps on my bare behind with his hand, while I am standing bent over, and am completely undressed.
Between the slaps, I have to answer his questions concerning what I have done, and what was wrong about it, and whether I will do it again. I have to answer his questions according to my sin, my confession and my repentance.
If I do not learn from the first chastening and sin again in the same field, the slaps will be doubled for me.
My husband spanks me if I stray from the way of God in some fashion.
If I go astray, my husband has to ensure that this disobedience does not put the whole house in danger. So he will inform me that because of my sin against God, I will be disciplined.
As a next step, I have to reflect on my sin, studying Scripture to make sure I understand what I have done wrong, and then I have to write a confession. This confession is printed, signed, and read to my husband. The confession has to be public too, that is, published on the family blog or website, for example.
Between the sin and the chastening, a day at least passes, so that I have time for the reflection and to write the confession without neglecting my usual chores and duties. It also ensures that I am not spanked in anger.
When my husband finally spanks me, he does it with three slaps on my bare behind with his hand, while I am standing bent over, and am completely undressed.
Between the slaps, I have to answer his questions concerning what I have done, and what was wrong about it, and whether I will do it again. I have to answer his questions according to my sin, my confession and my repentance.
If I do not learn from the first chastening and sin again in the same field, the slaps will be doubled for me.
Taking It Way Too Far
I do not read much about CDD online. As a wife, my primary chores are house keeping, and I do not browse the internet when my husband is not there with me.
But today he sent me a link to look at, it was a blog of another lady who wrote about punishment. She wrote about it generally speaking and also in practical detail, and I cried when I read it.
Her attitude was that of an obedient housewife, but the spanking she described was so bad that I cannot see anymore how that kind of treatment can be related to anything she might have done... She says that she deserves it, but to me, the whole procedure looks much more like a power thing, with the goal of humiliating her rather than punishing.
We will all pay for our sins before God one day. The husband's role down here is to remind his wife of what is expected of her, and to discipline her if needed so that he can help her to follow God's word better, but not to take God's punishment out of God's hands, so to speak.
The humiliation lies already in having failed before the husband and God, at least that is what I feel in such situations, and the mere fact that spanking is needed is worst of all, for it convicts me of a failure.
The spanking as such should not be what we fear, but our own weaknesses and failures.
But today he sent me a link to look at, it was a blog of another lady who wrote about punishment. She wrote about it generally speaking and also in practical detail, and I cried when I read it.
Her attitude was that of an obedient housewife, but the spanking she described was so bad that I cannot see anymore how that kind of treatment can be related to anything she might have done... She says that she deserves it, but to me, the whole procedure looks much more like a power thing, with the goal of humiliating her rather than punishing.
We will all pay for our sins before God one day. The husband's role down here is to remind his wife of what is expected of her, and to discipline her if needed so that he can help her to follow God's word better, but not to take God's punishment out of God's hands, so to speak.
The humiliation lies already in having failed before the husband and God, at least that is what I feel in such situations, and the mere fact that spanking is needed is worst of all, for it convicts me of a failure.
The spanking as such should not be what we fear, but our own weaknesses and failures.
Biblical Foundations of CDD
God ensures obedience in His people, and so does a husband in his house.
"My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction: For whom the LORD loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth." (Pro 3:11-12)
This verse shows that the husband has this responsibility indeed. Rebuke and chastening is necessary if the wife you love goes the wrong way, or slackens in her attempts to be fully submissive and obedient. God does that with His people all the time, for we all need to overcome our post-fall sinful nature (Gen 3).
"Behold, happy is the man whom God correcteth: therefore despise not thou the chastening of the Almighty:" (Job 5:17)
Chastening is not anything either God or a husband likes to do. If it is needed, that means that a wife broke a rule and endangered the unity of the house by being disobedient, by neglecting her duties or whatever. A wife should be happy that her husband takes his responsibility seriously, and it is important to spank in time, so that bad things do not become habit, and
"Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying." (Pro 19:18)
God punishes His people practically everywhere in the Old Testament, because they fell away from Him all the time. God killed His people, sent plagues or wars and even sent them into exile to make sure they understood that they had sinned against Him.
But of course the husband does not do the same things - in fact, many people go wayyyyy toooooo far with their ideas of punishment, it seems to me, but I will write about that in another blog post. God's time frame is that of many generations and not an individual life time. So His punishment far exceeds that of a husband, only the desire to lead His people into a good life and finally salvation is the same.
A husband wants to lead his family in the same way. That's why correction is so important, even if it hurts both husband and wife. But it is worth it.
"Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby." (Heb 12:11)
Chastening is much more than a physical correction. It is an act of love, it puts a sinner back on the right path.
"My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction: For whom the LORD loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth." (Pro 3:11-12)
This verse shows that the husband has this responsibility indeed. Rebuke and chastening is necessary if the wife you love goes the wrong way, or slackens in her attempts to be fully submissive and obedient. God does that with His people all the time, for we all need to overcome our post-fall sinful nature (Gen 3).
"Behold, happy is the man whom God correcteth: therefore despise not thou the chastening of the Almighty:" (Job 5:17)
Chastening is not anything either God or a husband likes to do. If it is needed, that means that a wife broke a rule and endangered the unity of the house by being disobedient, by neglecting her duties or whatever. A wife should be happy that her husband takes his responsibility seriously, and it is important to spank in time, so that bad things do not become habit, and
"Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying." (Pro 19:18)
God punishes His people practically everywhere in the Old Testament, because they fell away from Him all the time. God killed His people, sent plagues or wars and even sent them into exile to make sure they understood that they had sinned against Him.
But of course the husband does not do the same things - in fact, many people go wayyyyy toooooo far with their ideas of punishment, it seems to me, but I will write about that in another blog post. God's time frame is that of many generations and not an individual life time. So His punishment far exceeds that of a husband, only the desire to lead His people into a good life and finally salvation is the same.
A husband wants to lead his family in the same way. That's why correction is so important, even if it hurts both husband and wife. But it is worth it.
"Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby." (Heb 12:11)
Chastening is much more than a physical correction. It is an act of love, it puts a sinner back on the right path.
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