Submissive Women are Attractive

It might sound strange in modern society, but it is true for men who are willing to take a stand and be what God meant them to be, heads of their houses, godly leaders of their families: They find submissiveness in women very attractive, much more than independence. They are not looking for women who seemingly need no one and are perfectly fine with running the show at home. They are looking for a help meet.

So let me explain what is so attractive about submissiveness:

1. It is godly behavior. The godly women of the bible show this attitude, and Paul and Peter remind wives that this is what God expects of them, and what will do their husbands good. No matter how crafty of a home maker, like the Proverbs-31-woman, submissiveness and obedience to her husband is still a wife's most prized virtue, a quiet and honest spirit, chaste conversation, and faithfulness to the husband and his house. I will only give you two references as examples: Ephesians 5 and 1 Peter 3.

2. It shows the husband how much his wife loves him. If she submits herself to his care and good judgment completely, he knows she will be honest and faithful to him all her days, do him good and not evil, and will raise his children in a godly manner. She will not do him or his house any harm because she fears God, and knows her place.

These are the qualities a godly husband looks for in a wife. A woman who submits herself completely and in all things to her husband is a treasure: rare, difficult to find, and worth keeping even if she is a little troubling at times and needs spanked... Women, remember this!

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Proper Implements for Punishment

I've been pondering as to what exactly is the best instrument to utilize for correction of my wife. Up until now I have been using my hand on her bare butt and nothing more, and yet it seems as though at times this is hardly effective at all. I stick with three swats, and no more than that, but using my hand has not been completely effective in helping my wife overcome her negative habits, and so I am considering alternatives.

Other possibilities are a plastic ruler (the yardstick broke), a hairbrush, or a small rod (switch) from one of the maples in the back yard. I am thinking to give the maple a try and see how that goes. I wonder what everyone else uses.


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Rebellion is as the Sin of Witchcraft

"For rebellion is as the sin of witchcraft, and stubbornness is as iniquity and idolatry." (1Sa 15:23)

My wife read a discussion in a group the other night about a wife that asked other women for help. That wife didn't want to follow her husband's lead concerning modest dress and some other biblical matter that she claimed her husband did not want to study. She vented that her husband had his mind made up about it and was unwilling to look any further, though his opinion was based on corrupted Scripture, and that she could not help but teach her daughters the word of God anyway. This lady feared that her husband's inconsistency would breed rebellion in her daughters...

Wow ! And guess what ? Most of the women answering supported this lady in her ways ! Only one lady mentioned 1 Peter 3:1-7, but nobody agreed with her, at least openly, and they even called her arrogant and got upset because she dared to say that obviously the lady asking for help had a rebellion issue herself ! This lady knows her husband doesnt want their daughters to be taught in a certain way, and she tries anyway....and asks other women for advice, and these other women really want to encourage her to be rebellious.

It was overly obvious to me and my wife that of course this lady was rebellious. She thought she understood the bible better than her husband. She said she could not help but teach God's word to the children in one particular matter, against the expressed will of their father. She said he was inconsistent, but what about herself ? Who is the head of the house ? Who is responsible for the spiritual education of the children and the wife alike ? Who is the one who will be held responsible for it all by God in the end ? It's my duty to be aware of what my family does, and to protect the family, including grown adult wives, from the negative influences of others. Another "little General" running around trying to command the troops leads to confusion and such !

So, if she were my wife, and I caught her doing these things, I would punish her, that simple. Let me list the reasons:

#1, she would have been spanked for turning to a group of women for support without telling me. That's a serious issue indeed.  If it were me, I would be aware of what the wife is doing online, who she is interacting with and so forth. I certainly am in my own house.

#2, she would have been spanked for speaking bad about me in front of these women, claiming that her understanding of Scripture was superior to mine. That's Eve's sin all over again, and only excuses her rebellion really. She should b a helpmeet, not the guide.

#3, she would have been spanked for being rebellious in her whole attitude. That man had clear ideas about the way his wife and daughters dressed, he had clear ideas about other scriptural matters, and she would teach the children that their father's opinion was not in accordance with Scripture, according to her own assessment - well, how much more rebellious can you get ? She tries to usurp authority !

#4, she would have been spanked for calling me inconsistent and blaming any potential rebellion in my daughters on me. She is the one who is to teach the daughters, by example, what it means to be obedient to your husband (and father). She doesn't do that, obviously. I am the one who is to teach them Scripture, but she tries to take it out of my hands. And the bible calls this sin, as bad as witchcraft.

Now you tell me if she would not have deserved spanking... Most of those women on that group obviously need a good spanking, actually, for encouraging one of their "sisters" in her rebellion against her husband !

Christian men, take the lead, do not commit Adam's sin, and do not let your wives commit Eve's sin all over again !

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Biblical Foundations of CDD

God ensures obedience in His people, and so does a husband in his house.

"My son, despise not the chastening of the LORD; neither be weary of his correction: For whom the LORD loveth he correcteth; even as a father the son in whom he delighteth." (Pro 3:11-12)

This verse shows that the husband has this responsibility indeed. Rebuke and chastening is necessary if the wife you love goes the wrong way, or slackens in her attempts to be fully submissive and obedient. God does that with His people all the time, for we all need to overcome our post-fall sinful nature (Gen 3).

"Behold, happy is the man whom God correcteth: therefore despise not thou the chastening of the Almighty:" (Job 5:17)

Chastening is not anything either God or a husband likes to do. If it is needed, that means that a wife broke a rule and endangered the unity of the house by being disobedient, by neglecting her duties or whatever. A wife should be happy that her husband takes his responsibility seriously, and it is important to spank in time, so that bad things do not become habit, and

"Chasten thy son while there is hope, and let not thy soul spare for his crying." (Pro 19:18)

God punishes His people practically everywhere in the Old Testament, because they fell away from Him all the time. God killed His people, sent plagues or wars and even sent them into exile to make sure they understood that they had sinned against Him.

But of course the husband does not do the same things - in fact, many people go wayyyyy toooooo far with their ideas of punishment, it seems to me, but I will write about that in another blog post. God's time frame is that of many generations and not an individual life time. So His punishment far exceeds that of a husband, only the desire to lead His people into a good life and finally salvation is the same.

A husband wants to lead his family in the same way. That's why correction is so important, even if it hurts both husband and wife. But it is worth it.

"Now no chastening for the present seemeth to be joyous, but grievous: nevertheless afterward it yieldeth the peaceable fruit of righteousness unto them which are exercised thereby." (Heb 12:11)

Chastening is much more than a physical correction. It is an act of love, it puts a sinner back on the right path.

Confession Concerning Lying, Yet Again

Psa 51:6 "Behold, thou desirest truth in the inward parts: and in the hidden part thou shalt make me to know wisdom."

It should not be necessary to write this confession, but it is - I lied again to my husband. Honesty is a difficult thing sometimes, it seems, even though this should not be so.

Sometimes it is difficult to admit to something that is embarrassing or shameful, but that is of course no excuse. Lying is of the devil, and nothing gives me as my husband's wife an excuse to lie to him.

I should have known that lying was much worse than what I did wrong, and we had lots and lots of discussions about lying, about the instances in the bible where it is not portrayed as sin, and why liars are still going to burn in the lake of sulfur.

I ask my Master for forgiveness, repent from my failure yet again, and pray to God for forgiveness, that He may strengthen me to work on the obvious problem I still have in this area.

Of course, punishment was due, after the anger had subsided. When my husband came back from work, after dinner when the atmosphere was somewhat relaxed again, he had me close the curtains in the whole house and then take off all my clothes. I was standing in the living room, had to bend over, and he spanked me with his hand. He did it so hard I started crying with the first slap already. I could hardly answer his questions anymore, but did my best to speak through the tears. His hand left marks on my butt. After the last slap, I dressed again, crying, and with a burning and stinging butt. It lasted for quite a while, as a matter of fact, my butt was still tender the next morning.

It is a bad thing if there is need for punishment, and I am thankful to my beloved husband that he takes the responsibility upon himself to spank me if needed. I am called to be a good help meet and to do my best to assist my Master in his calling, and to be pure and unblemished before God, and a good example to our children and everybody else in the household. I lacked in all three areas, and am truly sorry, and repent.

Calling all Patriarchs

Let's face it, and face it now, Christian men. Biblically speaking, men are called to lead, women are called to be submissive and to follow their husbands lead. It's that simple.

Now that we have faced that particular truism, what about this: Men are, since Adam, inclined to kick back and scratch themselves, and women are inclined to do the leading. This comes straight from the Garden of Eden, and has continued pretty much since that time, regardless of what the feminists want us to believe.

However, this is not the way it was intended to be, and many men are waking up, taking back their proper place in the home, and leading their families in a Biblical way. There are many facets to such a responsibility. The one particular aspect we want to explore on this blog is that these fledgling patriarchs need to get a handle on their women!

Well, this blog is dedicated to exploring one of the options a biblical patriarch has when it comes to taking the lead in his family and making sure that things go according to plan. It's called Christian Domestic Discipline, or CDD for short. Most times it conjures images of a good old fashioned spanking, but could involve other things, such as a loss of privileges. I hope that others will find this blog, and share and learn and contribute to a fully Christian understanding of the role of the discipling husband.

Note* Domestic Discipline, as we are discussing it here, involves a man and his wife, who are both willing to submit theirselves to the authority placed over them. Christ over the man, the man over the woman. In no way do we advocate a man striking his wife in anger, or being abusive in any way shape or form.

Actually, there are many Christian women who actively seek a husband who is strong, and willing to take full responsibility for the family, and it sometimes includes the spanking or discipline of the wife. The wife must be willing to submit herself to her husband as the bible says she is. So I hope there are some other people out there who are interested in discussing this topic.